Internet dating and divorce
Personally, I like to think of myself as spectacularly fun dating material but lacking most of the requirements for long term relationships.
I also lack a plush bank account, stability or startlingly handsome good looks. You, on the other hand, might have what every woman ostensibly wants (a bottle of Chateau d’Yquem and an Am Ex Black Card), and you might be looking to settle down.
In simple terms; if you’re looking for a long term partner, my advice would be for you to strive for brutal honesty and complete transparency. While that might seem counter-intuitive, it actually serves your long term interests well.
If you show up in a suit, you don’t need her to know it’s your only one. we’re not looking to find out if our political or religious views match yet or how many bad relationships we’ve survived or the name of her dog that just died.
So, here are two little lists (in no way complete) I came up with to give you some clear ideas on how to approach your next conversation with a potentially interested party, keeping in mind the agendas of casual dating vs. – Remain mysterious While you don’t need to be so secretive as to seem suspicious, there is also no reason in a dating scenario to bother her with your life story. Keep the focus on her, but…– Don’t ask too many questions Of course, ask questions about her. Save the messy stuff for later talks if you find you’re getting serious.
” Note: You also want to be certain to include a sincere compliment that shows her you’ve noticed her as well — and a thank you in that response, at the least.– Plan A, B …
maybe CWhen you meet your date, be ready to keep her entertained.
It shows her you are serious, and it shows you who she is, in depth. One of my favorite lines is from the Stephen Sondheim musical : “I was raised to be charming, not sincere,” spoken by Prince Charming when Snow White catches him sleeping around with Sleeping Beauty. Of course, you shouldn’t be lying to anyone or cheating or being intentionally deceitful. That doesn’t, however, preclude your ability to keep details hidden, to allow yourself to be perceived as slightly opaque or mysterious, or to keep the conversation focused on her.